The world isn’t ending, only a version of it is.
Our duty is to doula in the next version. To allow the death of what does not protect, serve, and delight to prepare for the birth of a delicious, abundant existence for all.
It will require small, revolutionary exchanges like:
“I made 18 quarts of soup, I will drop some off later.”
“I am coming over tomorrow to do dinner and bed time with your children.”
“You’re invited to this grief circle I am holding. This mending circle. This skill share. This communal weep.”
“I had a dope accounting professor who made sure we knew how to fill out our tax forms. Do you want help on yours? I don’t want the state to have any open doors into our community in the name of “compliance.”
“I don’t have any meetings on Wednesdays so that I can spend focused time on my most beloved project. Want to meet on Thursday or Friday instead? Here’s my booking link.”
“I’m going to the store, do you want anything? I can drop it on your doorstep.”
“I know we’ve just met, but you mentioned that you are involved in an organization I care a lot about. Want to care about it together?”
“My neighbor has every tool you can imagine, want me to give you his number to see if you can borrow his saw?”
“Want to come over and nap?”
“Let’s turn your boss’ nonsense responses into a drinking game.”
“I paid my acupuncturist for 4 visits for you.”
“Maybe we should hire a facilitator for this conversation.”
“I think you should take 1 day off for every 10 times your manager says “thank you for bringing your whole self to work.”
“I have time this weekend if there are gardening tasks you want support with.”
“This reminded me of you.”
“I’m coming over with a bundle of herbs and my womb steaming stool.”
“Can you read this to me while I cook?”
“Let’s set up a meal train so they don’t have to drive and risk being stopped and interrogated.”
“Maybe this isn’t your fight.”
“Maybe this is your fight.”
“I am not willing to avoid what needs to be addressed for us to relate in a good way. Let me know when you are ready to talk. I love you.”
“Dude, when is the last time you did [fill in the blank of that thing that person needs to do to stay grounded]?”
“Will you carry a copy of my documents with you when we are together in case we get stopped?”
“Maybe we should buy land and build houses for all of us and ADUs for our aging parents so we can all care for them together.”
“For you, free.”
“Absolutely not.”
“I can’t have this conversation inside. Let’s take a walk.”
Everything we do in our little worlds is mirrored back to us by the big one. We must tend to our corner of the world to allow for new realities to be born. It starts with how we relate. To ourselves. To each other. To the planet. To awe.
I’d love to see your additions below in the comments!
Yes. I know how to grow flowers and vegetables. Let's make a garden together.
Perfect. Beautiful. Thank you for your vision.